The third step in finding happiness: methods – Part 1: A guide for this section and some advice for your journey

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Emotional trauma, addiction and other negative parts of ourselves are really hard to change. And you need good methods to change them. By using them in the correct order and composition you can achieve your goal of healing faster and more effectively. That’s why it is important for you to dig deep into the possibilities and find the ones that are best suited for you and your lifestyle! We can categorize the methods into two groups. The ones that you can do by yourself and the ones that require outside help. My experience is that work done with outside help is much more effective. That’s why I’m telling you not to be be scared to ask for help! Everyone needs emotional support but not all of us are mature enough to accept it. For instance, there are still a lot of people who think that going to therapy is something that only crazy people do. Of course that is not true. We go to the doctor with smaller sicknesses as well, not just when we are diagnosed with something huge like cancer. Similar to that, you can visit a therapist with a smaller problem too. I also hope you know, there’s not a single person on this planet who doesn’t have any kind of psychological trauma. The problem is that our ego tries to make us believe that everything is fine when, in fact, it is not. If someone is thinking this way it usually means that their self-knowledge isn’t deep enough or they aren’t courageous enough to truly look inside themselves. I knew more than one alcoholic for example, who didn’t seek out help because he felt like everything was fine. It was obvious that he had a serious problem not just because he drank, but because his drinking had affected his loved ones a great deal as well.

There’s another aspect from which we can categorize the methods. Find out which period of your life the problem that you want to solve or heal took place. You’ll need great self-knowledge for that (if you’d like to achieve that, I’d like to introduce you to my articles written in that topic). We can even carry wounds from the time we were living inside our mothers’ wombs. Of course, at that time our brains couldn’t hold memories yet but we did have emotional memory. As we grow older, our rational thinking and consciousness grow stronger. The closer the root of the problem is to early childhood, the harder it is to treat and cure it with methods that approach it from a rational perspective. Methods that work through rational thinking are more effective if the problem was caused later in life (the later the better).

I also feel it important for you to know that with bigger damage, comes bigger need for help. If you experienced traumas at an older age, you’ll probably be able to help yourself without having to get anyone involved in it. But if you’ve gone through some serious trauma before the age of 3, than you more than probably will require outside help. Of course there are a lot of layers in between these two examples which were taken from each side of the scale. But I hope this article will help you choose your methods correctly, no matter where you come across them. You’ll be able to read about many methods in this heading too! Feel free to try the ones you feel are the best suited for you…

DRDE

 

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